The Ultimate Breakup Survival Kit + 7-Step Guide

Breakups suck. As someone recently going through one of my own, I wanted to share my tips and tricks of what’s helped me make it through in the past. If you have any additional, leave a comment below!

Step 1: Make a Pros & Cons List.

This should help you see the bigger picture. Hopefully there are more cons, but if you can only think of mainly pros this early on, maybe skip this step. Refer back to said list as a reminder of all the qualities that always irked you during the relationship. Every person has their quirks, so this shouldn’t be too difficult!

Step 2: Stock Up on Essentials & Self-Care

• Tissues. These are great for on-the-go crying because they fit in the cupholder of your car🙃
• Alcohol-Free Rosé – We all want to drown in booze after a breakup, but I promise doing that will not make anything better. I don’t know if this works for everyone, but this stuff has a weird placebo effect on me, likely because it tastes so much like actual rosé! In fact, there are tons of alcohol-free and fun mocktail options out there these days. Give them a try and see if it works for you!
• Sugar-free chocolate candy – We also want to bathe in chocolate and ice cream during breakups, but maybe skip the sugar à la breakup revenge bod. These are my personal favorite.
• Face Masks – because, duh.
• Crest White Strips – I know, I know. But put these on at night and say hello to whiter teeth. Take this time to self-care.
• Bathrobe – Hopefully you already have one – I practically live in mine during a breakup.

• Buy a new blanket: cuddly, cozy, electric (who’s gonna keep you warm at night now?), weighted – they really should make a weighted-electric hybrid. The key word here is new. I find myself loving just about anything new post-breakup because making new memories push those with your ex that much farther away, so you can dwell and think of them less and less often.

• Hitachi Magic Wand “back massager”: You could use this on your back, or anywhere on your body… and I do mean anywhere. You’ll figure it out. Thank me later.

• Body pillow – if you’re used to sleeping next to someone, this can help fill that void and provide extra comfort.

Step 3: Breakup Movies

• Closer

 It’s a lie. It’s a bunch of sad strangers photographed beautifully, and… all the glittering assholes who appreciate art say it’s beautiful ’cause that’s what they wanna see. But the people in the photos are sad, and alone… But the pictures make the world seem beautiful, so… the exhibition is reassuring which makes it a lie, and everyone loves a big fat lie. – Alice

• Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

• The Other Woman

• Newness

• Splendor in the Grass

Did I leave any good breakup movies out? Leave a comment below!

Step 4: Music Therapy

• My Spotify heartbreak playlist

Step 5: Get Moving

Start working out and aim for that revenge body I mentioned earlier! Exercise is not only great for your physical health but also boosts your mood and helps you feel empowered. Even though I can get horribly depressed and hate to say it, nothing looks better on me than a breakup.

Step 6: Rage.

If you’ve never heard of a ‘rage,’ ‘smash,’ or ‘anger’ room, prepare to be enlightened. What am I talking about? Via Wikipedia: “A rage room, also known as a smash room or anger room, is a room where people can vent their rage by destroying objects.” If you live in or have access to a more private rural area, you can probably set this up yourself without having to pay for the space. Just don’t forget to wear proper protective gear-glass flies everywhere!

I went to my local Rage Ground in downtown Los Angeles recently (video below), and could not believe how fantastic I felt afterward. Give it a try and let me know what you thought of it in the comments below! You can also get 15% off admission at Rage Ground now with code SP15.

Step 7: Reorganize & Revamp Your Closet

Out with the old, in with the new. Having a freshly organized closet feels amazing! I’ll be touching somewhat on how I did this in a future post, so stay tuned!

Remember, breakups are tough, but you’re tougher. Take care of yourself and give yourself the time and space to heal. 💪💔